I’ve participated in this community for a little while now and I thought it might be helpful to some new mamas (and papas) to hear how I struggled emotionally after I gave birth to my first child.
My husband and I were living in an apartment building and had kids before any of my close friends at the time did. I was so excited to be a mom, but after a very short time, I became very lonely. My friends were all working full time as were my family members so I really had no-one to talk to during the day and at night I was exhausted and had no energy for any conversation really.
I’m NOT a homebody at all and I would watch my husband leave for work every morning with a bit of jealousy that he had somewhere to go. I wanted to stay home for a while with my baby and thankfully didn’t have to rush back to work-and it was a choice I really wanted, but it didn’t make the days go any faster or feel less lonely.
I had one acquaintance I would meet up with once a week for a walk with our babies and I seriously lived for that hour.
Of course when people would ask me how everything was going, I would smile and say that everything was great-and really there was nothing WRONG-it was hard to describe without sounding like i was just complaining about common new mom things.
When we moved to a house in a suburban community before we had our second, it was a completely different experience because lots of people around me were in the same stage of life, but I often think about my beginnings of new motherhood and how difficult I found those days.
Support is so important.